Holiday Grief – Tip # 2
Often times when we are facing Christmas without our loved one, especially if it’s the first holiday season since their death, we ponder whether it is worth our time and energy, and sometimes our money, to put a tree up with all the decorations.
Perhaps you want to simply skip the holiday all together…after all, it would be so much easier, wouldn’t it?
But when it comes to deciding on a tree or to forgo this tradition, at least this year, you’d want to consider whom that decision might impact the most.
If you have children who are grieving the death of a parent or sibling, it might be wise to have a family meeting and softly discuss what you are thinking and get their feedback on your ideas. You might be wildly surprised to learn that they want Christmas to remain exactly as it has been in years past because they don’t want any traditions changed.
They might be feeling that the person who died would want them to celebrate just as you did in the past.
And if that is too much for you, there are options.
Maybe the compromise is a smaller tree with fewer lights and ornaments.
Maybe you can use a plant, instead, and decorate it with a strand of tiny white lights and instead of ornaments use red silk ribbon tied in soft bows that you just lay on the leaves.
Maybe the children would like to put up a small tree in their room and decorate the way they wish.
There are so many options. Put your thinking cap on, get ideas from your family and friends and, most of all, don’t discard the feelings and wishes of your spouse and children.
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