Category Archives: Homicide

The Mary Mac Show | It’s Not The Weapon

Throughout the world we have seen a significant rise in violence. Usually when a murder occurs, the police or homicide detective first look toward those closest to the victim.

But, at least in the United States over the past year and a half, we have seen an over 30% or more increase in homicides in major as well as smaller cities here.

Whether it’s a mass shooting of random people in churches, synagogues, grocery stores, movie theatres, schools or a drive by shooting killing young children just simply playing in the neighborhood playground, the randomness of these crimes doesn’t allow anyone to feel safe.

But politicians, who ‘give their thoughts and prayers’ don’t have anything to offer except a new law to curtail the rights of our citizens to protect themselves from these violent criminals.

In Episode 132, we take on this controversial subject and help you understand, from my perspective of having experienced the murder of a loved one, that no matter what law we already have on the books which is not being upheld, to a new one, there is so much more that needs to be considered here.

Listen in to learn what families go through after they’ve experienced a loved one’s murder and how it’s never the weapon but the intent.

Additional Notes:

If you’ve experienced the murder of a loved one, please reach out to Parents of Murdered Children to find a chapter or contact person near you for support.

The Mary Mac Show | When There Is No Funeral

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In Episode 123, we talk about how to handle our grief when there is no body to bury and/or what to do when it’s not possible or preferred to have a traditional funeral.

In most parts of the world and within most cultures, it is traditional to have a last event, a funeral, to honor the dead in our family.

But with the pandemic and with war raging in this world, that may not have been possible in the recent past or in the near future.

During World War II, families who helped liberate European countries were fortunate to even know where their loved one’s died.

And there are military cemeteries in many parts of the world who honored those families by burying their fathers, sons, brothers and other loved ones.

There is also the unexpectedness of not having a body to bury.

People who were blown away in tornadoes and could not be found.

Those who were murdered, possibly dismembered.

Those who died in fires, airplane crashes, though terrorism, war, drowning in the ocean or other bodies of water, run over by trains, found months or even years later and their body is decomposed.

Even from explosions in war, in building collapses, earthquakes and volcanoes where bodies could not be recovered, avalanches.

No one ever expects that their body will not be found and buried but this happens more than we know.

And with the high cost of a funeral (upward of $10,000 USD) many families don’t have the resources to do this.

So cremation is an alternative.

But what about a funeral?

Many people are opting to something different to still commemorate their loved ones and we speak about those various ways in this week’s episode.

Listen in to Episode 123 and leave a comment below how you chose to honor your loved one. What ceremonies worked for you?

Bless you my friend.
xoxo

Additional Notes:

You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.

If you need knowledge as to what to expect when you’re grieving, visit www.GriefAuthority.com and pick up my 3 Book Bundle of Hope which you can immediately download 24/7 anywhere in the world. It is important to not guess if what you’re feeling is part of this process. With my books, you will know what happens during this time so you’ll have your mind at ease. Go get them now.

If you are grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The Mary Mac Show | 9/11 – 20 Years Later

In Episode 92, we remember the morning of September 11, 2001, the deadliest terrorist attack in world history and the first on American soil.

For those of us old enough to remember, this was the darkest day in American history as we watched in utter horror as four planes were used as missiles to wreak terror on our nation.

People watched in lower Manhattan as both buildings of the World Trade Center were attacked and within hours imploded killing thousands.

Many jumped to their deaths from 100 stories or more because they couldn’t breathe from the smoke and flames.

Nearly three-thousand people died that day from 90 countries. And many more over the years from those like the Fire Department of New York and the New York Police Department who succumbed to cancers breathing in the toxic fumes from the ‘pile’ they worked on to rescue and recover victims.

The FDNY, the Fire Department of New York, lost 343 trying to save others.

That day is marked in all our minds by most of us alive on September 11, 2001. It is a day where we all knew exactly where we were. And most of us were glued to our television sets.

We will carry those memories forever.

Those who were in the buildings and made it out, lost many friends and grieve for their losses along with the victims’ families.

Those who were too young to even know what this was like, below you will see video footage compiled so we never forget.

And yes it’s graphic…that’s life. This is real life. It happened. People lived through this.

And for those who have claimed a single photo ‘triggered’ them, well it’s time to get a backbone because what’s ahead for our country is not good.

We have welcomed thousands of Afghan refugees and have no idea if they are terrorists. The chances of this happening again are high.

Here are the scenes of what happened that day:

Here is the memorial today where the towers once stood:

Bless everyone who died that day and the families and friends of those victims.

Take the time to listen to the names being read each year on 9/11 to honor them.

We must never forget!

Independence Day

One of the greatest loves is love of country.

Whether it chooses you at birth, or you chose it by applying for and going through the legal path of citizenship, the allegiance one holds for its country is an honor and tribute to all the people who died to defend it.

Every country has its sovereign borders.

Every country defends itself from foreign forces.

That’s what makes a country, a country.

But when you intentionally have entities who teach children to hate their country, hate certain groups of people based upon their financial situation, their race, their religion and more, there is a pulling apart of citizenry that is harming all our citizens.

When law and order is no longer followed, even encouraged by certain politicians, we are harming our citizens.

What most don’t realize is that the cities that are crying for defunding police, are the exact cities with the most crime who need increased police presence more than most.

Homicides are rising exponentially and while we look at all these statistics, we don’t realize that in all those numbers are grieving families.

Those are human beings who are being murdered every hour of every day.

And without enough resources to solve those crimes, no justice will prevail.

On this 4th of July, our American Independence Day, I pray for these survivors of homicide victims and pray for their comfort and peace.

I pray for the safety of all Americans today and always.

We have an amazing country and my heart breaks for every single murder, all of which could be prevented.

None were necessary.

None.

Bless this country.

There is not one other country like ours.

And that’s why so many people are yearning to get here. Either the legal way, or the illegal way.

The Mary Mac Show | Disenfranchised Grief I

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In Episode 60, we delve into the trauma and pain mourners feel when they can’t fully express their loss after a loved one’s death.

There are so many situations where someone feels shame after a loved one’s death and cannot express their grief and pain because the relationship may not have the proper ‘label’ or the relationship has been so strained or secret.

Many types of death carry a stigma that society places on it and, consequently, many bereaved feel stifled in openly showing their grief.

Often times people make others feel less than or embarrassed when a person has overdosed, or took their own life, or was murdered or killed another and themselves in a vehicular homicide crash.

They convey that something is wrong with a woman who has a miscarriage or stillbirth or several.

It could be a secret gay relationship was never known and the surviving partner must keep that to themselves because their lover was married, perhaps even with children and only hurt with come to his family.

It might be an ex-spouse who caused all sorts of pain and your children are grieving his or her death, but where does your grief fit in?

This week we discuss many different types of disenfranchised grief and next week we will look at what we can do to soothe ourselves when we are dealing with such a death.

Additional Notes:

If you are feeling shame either because you’ve imposed it on yourself for what you “think” a certain death means to you, or because others are making your feel that way, you might find solace in this EFT Tapping Video by Arianna Opper, D.O. She has a very soothing voice and aura.

If you’d like to explore her other videos, please go here.

To see my signature Heart of Gold “I Remember” Mug, either for yourself or as a gift for someone grieving the death of a loved one, please go here. A portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death.

Much Love,

Mary Mac xoxo