Category Archives: Suicide

The Mary Mac Show | The Gift of Honesty

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 114, we discuss the very difficult emotions we encounter when a loved one’s death caused extreme embarrassment for you and the family and how to release that pain so you can build a new life.

Perhaps your loved one was experimenting or deep in opioid drugs, heroin, cocaine, fentanyl. Maybe they have been involved in gangs. Perhaps driving while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Involved in domestic abuse of their spouse or even decided to take their own life.

All of these situations are the direct result of their personal behavior and decisions they made in their lives.

And, unfortunately, they can bring great embarrassment to you after they have died.

In this week’s episode I delve in deep to the great pain you feel after they’ve died and left the mess they did for you.

To safe face, many families will not talk about what happened.

They will say things like they ‘accidentally overdosed’ or they will not disclose in their obituary how they died.

They will use words like ‘died unexpectedly’ but they never tell the entire story.

Now there are a lot of connotations to those two possibilities.

And it leaves people to wonder if the death was much worse than it really was.

A person could have ‘died unexpectedly’ in a car crash, heart attack, stroke, died in their sleep. So many ways. But none of those would cause the family to be embarrassed, now would they?

I guess I’m perplexed about how someone can ‘accidentally overdose’. They knew they were taking the drugs. They knew how much they were taking. They knew the risks involved with such powerful drugs. And when they reached out to a drug dealer, they knew they were putting themselves in great harm.

There wasn’t anything ‘accidental’ about it. And the possibility that they actually wanted to take their life using drugs still floats out there. But many families don’t want to entertain that thought.

When someone gets into a car and they’ve been drinking and drugging, they know the risk of killing others and themselves but that wasn’t their priority at that time. So when they kill others and themselves in that car crash, their family is devastated. Along with the family of those he or she killed with their recklessness.

If someone joined a gang, more than likely they had to prove themselves by killing someone, usually an innocent person. And then when they themselves are killed along the way, their family is embarrassed and distraught for what they did.

If a husband or wife is accustomed to beating on their spouse and this is a continual occurrence, and then one day they go too far and the battered spouse is killed, maybe to make the news in the papers, how difficult is it for the surviving family to endure.

Perhaps they took their own life, in so many manners – drugs, hung themselves, drove their car into a lake, stockpile, a huge truck. Suicide is not accidental by any means.

In this week’s episode I encourage survivors to get brutally honest about what really happened because if you’re still lying to yourself, you will stay stuck in your grief and not allow yourself to rebuild a life where you thrive.

So listen in to Episode 114 to learn ways to deal with this.

Blessings to you.
xoxo

Additional Notes:

If you are ill or grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

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The Mary Mac Show | Remembering Our Veterans

The Mary Mac Show PodcastIn Episode 101, we honor our veterans this week in the USA for all they have sacrificed for our freedom. We also remember veterans around the world who represent their country’s citizens.

Veterans are outstanding people.

They’ve sacrificed so much of their emotional, mental and physical strength for our benefit.

They’ve experienced horrors which we will never know and live with those traumas for many years after they leave the military.

Some have lost limbs, had permanent and temporary injuries, traumatic brain injuries as well as post traumatic stress disorder.

These injuries may take months or years to heal, if they ever do.

And their families welcome them home and help them endure the aftermath of illness, injury and war.

So on Veterans Day, this week on November 11th in the USA, and on your Veterans Day around the world, we thank those who put their lives on the line for our safety and freedom.

But we also thank their family and friends who love them and care for them as they recover.

Bless all of you!

Additional Notes:

If you are having difficulty, please use the following assistance:

Visit my Crisis Connections page on this site to find telephone helpline counselors to speak with all around the world. Don’t be shy; they are there to help when you are having a hard time.

You can also visit the Gary Sinise Foundation‘s suicide prevention telephone line. If you are a veteran in crisis or concerned about one, caring VA responders are standing by to help. Dial 1-800-273-8255 and press 1.

The Disabled American’s Veterans organization or DAV.org is ready to help, as well.

Search for homeopathic doctors with the designation CCH in your area of the world. Read their sites and speak with them to determine whom you would feel most comfortable working with.

With Much Love,

Mary Mac

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Grieving a Miscarriage, Ectopic Pregnancy or Stillbirth

The Mary Mac Show PodcastIn Episode 97, we discuss the death of a baby through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or stillbirth and the pain, confusion and grief couples experience during these times.

When a couple first learns that they are expecting a baby, everyone is so excited.

It’s something they longed for and celebrate together and with family and friends.

But if they lose that baby through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or stillbirth, it shatters their world.

No one ever expects that something like this will happen.

Most people believe getting and keeping the pregnancy to full term is expected.

It’s easy.

Most women just go through pregnancy and they come home with a perfectly healthy baby girl or boy.

But the truth is many women will experience a miscarriage. Some even suffer through more than one.

It might be just a few months since they learned they were pregnant or it can be further along in the pregnancy.

And, even more devastating, is the stillbirth of a baby who is nearly or full term.

In this podcast episode, we discuss the grieving process of parents who are dealing with such sorrow.

Bless you my friend.
xoxo

Additional Notes:

As you know I am a great believer in the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique. Here are a few videos that I think will help you tremendously.

EFT videos for death of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, EFT Video for Grief after Death of a Loved One.

If you need someone to chat with, don’t be shy. It’s totally confidential. Go to Crisis Connections page on my website MaryMac.info to find telephone numbers for Crisis Hotlines around the world.

If you need help finding people who will understand your exact pain, visit my Grief Resources page and look under “Infant Death.”

Visit my site MaryMac.info/books for additional help, especially my book Understanding Your Grieving Heart After a Loved One’s death, the first and best book to reach for as you deal with your grief.

You’re welcome to send your questions to the Contact page on my site.

You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.

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And I’d love your support of my podcast by buying me a coffee.

Thank you.

The Mary Mac Show | Thinking the Unthinkable

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 65, we venture into the dark places we sometimes find ourselves after a loved one’s death and look at ways to climb out of that pit toward a better place in life.

I’ve been noticing how often people on social media speak directly or indirectly about taking their own lives because the pain of not having their loved one with them is too unbearable.

There is no doubt that when we have experienced the death of a significant person in our life, our grieving process can be overwhelming, painful in spirit and body, and often times we are left wondering how we are going to live without them.

There are times when deep depression and isolation creeps in and we’d rather not be here.

I understand. I have lived that too.

In this episode I speak very candidly about what we go through when we are in that black hole and feel like we can’t get out.

And I give several suggestions as to what helped me, which I hope will help you also.

Winston Churchill once said “Never, Never, Never Give Up” and while you might think you want to, we’re here to talk about that and help you rise up to start to see something better and to give you the confidence to move forward again.

Bless you, my friend, my warrior!

xoxo

Additional Notes:

Visit Crisis Connections at my website to telephone a trained counselor to speak with whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, frightened, fearful or any host of emotions.

Learn the Emotional Freedom Technique here for Stress and Overwhelm. It will soothe you and calm you physically and emotionally. Dr. Arianna also offers free guided-meditations which are wonderful.

Learn more about my favorite liquid vitamin here. Find my favorite Effer-C Vitamin C here.

Bach’s Rescue Remedy will calm and soothe you. Remember, it does have alcohol in if, if that is a concern for you.

You can watch Marissa Peer’s “I Am Enough” meditation.

Treat yourself to a lovely gift from our Heart of Gold “I Remember” Products from The Mary Mac Store.

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

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The Mary Mac Show | Disenfranchised Grief I

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 60, we delve into the trauma and pain mourners feel when they can’t fully express their loss after a loved one’s death.

There are so many situations where someone feels shame after a loved one’s death and cannot express their grief and pain because the relationship may not have the proper ‘label’ or the relationship has been so strained or secret.

Many types of death carry a stigma that society places on it and, consequently, many bereaved feel stifled in openly showing their grief.

Often times people make others feel less than or embarrassed when a person has overdosed, or took their own life, or was murdered or killed another and themselves in a vehicular homicide crash.

They convey that something is wrong with a woman who has a miscarriage or stillbirth or several.

It could be a secret gay relationship was never known and the surviving partner must keep that to themselves because their lover was married, perhaps even with children and only hurt with come to his family.

It might be an ex-spouse who caused all sorts of pain and your children are grieving his or her death, but where does your grief fit in?

This week we discuss many different types of disenfranchised grief and next week we will look at what we can do to soothe ourselves when we are dealing with such a death.

Additional Notes:

If you are feeling shame either because you’ve imposed it on yourself for what you “think” a certain death means to you, or because others are making your feel that way, you might find solace in this EFT Tapping Video by Arianna Opper, D.O. She has a very soothing voice and aura.

If you’d like to explore her other videos, please go here.

To see my signature Heart of Gold “I Remember” Mug, either for yourself or as a gift for someone grieving the death of a loved one, please go here. A portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death.

Much Love,

Mary Mac xoxo