In the spring and summer of 2020 here in the USA, we were going through an unprecedented lockdown which brought fear of the unknown to us.
At that time India had not yet heard of The Mary Mac Show.
But now, since my listeners in India have become my #2 audience in the world, only behind the USA, I wanted to reach out to the English speaking media in India to let them know that I had prepared many episodes on the coronavirus and how we are dealing with our grief when a loved one is dying or has died from this dreaded and sudden illness.
So I emailed 52 individual editors of newspapers in India and only one amazing lady saw the value of my work.
In Episode 73, we discuss the various intellectual challenges we go through after the death of a loved one and ways to help ourselves cope through these challenges.
When we have a significant loss, we find ourselves in what one would consider a ‘fog’ or ‘bubble’ at the beginning of our grief.
It is during that time when we feel enveloped in a sort of safety net where we are protected.
We do many things on autopilot and at times are unsure how we did all we did.
Sometimes we are going through the motions, like driving our car to work and can’t remember how we got there. It all seems so unreal.
And when the bubble or fog is slowly lifting we might feel even worse because we can’t convince ourselves any longer that this was all a nightmare.
It is then we realize this is very real.
Listen in to Episode 73 to learn more.
For my friends in India and elsewhere around the world who are seeing another wave of the Coronavirus, please listen in to the following episodes at The Mary Mac Show website which I recorded in 2020 when we were in locked down in the USA – Episodes 16-22 and 39 and 52.
Visit Crisis Connections at my website to telephone a trained counselor to speak with whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, frightened, fearful or any host of emotions.
Learn the Emotional Freedom Technique here for Stress and Overwhelm. It will soothe you and calm you physically and emotionally. Also spend time in this guided meditation on Self Compassion, which we all need. Dr. Arianna also offers many wonderful tapping and guided-meditations to choose from based upon which is best for you.
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In Episode 22, I wanted to speak about the experience of having had a loved one die of the coronavirus and how that affects us.
Dianne M. Daniels, who is taking the same online course as I am, was gracious to provide her outlook after the death of her beloved cousin, Alexis.
A bright, beautiful and accomplished women, Alexis was also an entrepreneur who is survived by her husband, Arthur, two children, David and Olivia, as well as her mother DeeDee, and countless other family members who will miss her terribly. Alexis’ battle against the virus took her life on April 10th.
Dianne speaks of how the weeks leading up to Alexis’ death were filled with anxiety yet hopefulness. Alexis had had allergies and breathing difficulties including asthma which meant she was at greater risk to contract the virus.
Listen in to Episode 22 to hear more about Dianne’s experience leading up to the death of her cousin, Alexis.
Also in this episode, I discuss how to cope with the inability to be with those who were in nursing facilities and hospitals and died without family near.
There are so many complicated emotions which arise from a coronavirus death.
Before this virus struck us and quarantined our families, we would simply go to their home, the nursing home, the hospital or other facility and be with them as they passed away.
But not being able to do that just now has added guilt, anger, a feeling of impotence and other emotions which we would be smart to deal with now, right here, so these feeling don’t linger and spiral out of control.
Listen in to Episode 22, share with those who might be in need of comfort and knowledge and rate and review wherever you hear my podcast.
This week we look at how our teenagers are dealing with being quarantined at home and what they think about this pandemic.
I have the good fortune to know Olivia Moody, who is my neighbor and an exceptional young lady. Her heart is always in the right place, doing wonderful things to help lift the spirits of all those she meets.
I wanted to learn what Olivia was feeling and thinking about this unprecedented time in our lives and she graciously agreed to share her perspective.
In Episode 21, I tell you what she has shared about her life now and how different is it since the lockdown began. You are in for a real treat!
On the podcast, I promised to share the beautiful note she wrote and secretly left for all her neighbors at their doorstep.
Below is her note:
Thank you Olivia for your thoughtful and caring gift to all of us!
Listen in to Episode 21, share with those who might be in need of comfort and knowledge and rate and review wherever you hear my podcast.
Since there is so much going on in our world and inside our homes each day, it isn’t uncommon to sidestep what our young ones are feeling.
Just like adults, they deal with the grief associated with no seeing their friends and relatives on a regular basis.
They don’t know what all this means. They haven’t seen you in this state before. Trying to juggle all the household chores of cleaning, cooking, taking care of them, homeschooling or at least tutoring them through their now online classes and somehow doing all your work online yourself.
And if you are an essential worker, who is caring for them each day.
All the while, they are just as confused and left wondering what all this means.
They watch the television and since they aren’t really sure what is happening or when this will end, they just observe.
But they don’t like that the questions floating through their minds aren’t really answered.
And they don’t know what to ask you or other adults mostly because they see you don’t really have any answers anyway.
Episode 20 we explore language you can use to help explain to our young ones what we know at this time and how they can help the family move through this crisis.