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The Mary Mac Show | Father’s Day | Sweet and Bittersweet

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In Episode 29, we remember our father and father figures who made an impact on our lives. We also discuss the pain of bereaved fathers, and father’s whose wives are struggling to bear children and fear they will never be called “Dad.”

The pain from a father’s death is often severe especially if we had a wonderful relationship with our Dads.

But, sometimes, our relationship wasn’t as we would expect and we struggle with the ‘what if’s’ and perhaps guilt that may bring.

Yet whatever the relationship, good or bad, that we had with him, we must forgive ourselves and even moreso him for what you needed that you didn’t get, for what you and he said to each other that stung, and all the unfinished business that might still linger that neither of you can do anything about anymore.

We also recognize all the father figures who raised you and cared for you if your Dad died younger than expected.

And we also talk about bereaved fathers who have buried their child, children or even all their children.

Lastly, we look at men who struggle to have children with their wives, those who experience a miscarriage or stillborn child, as well as those who deal with infertility and/or the knowledge that they may never have children of their own. We also remember men who are older now and wished they had children years ago when it was more practical, or those who never found the right women to raise a family.

This can be a very melancholy day for some. Let us acknowledge them all.

Listen in to Episode 29 here or on your favorite podcasting platform.

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | How To Help a Grieving Friend or Relative | Emotional Support

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Previously, in episodes 14 and 15, we learned what to SAY and NOT SAY to a grieving friend or relative.

In this episode, we discuss what to DO to lend support, emotional support, to those we love who are grieving the death of a loved one.

To help a newly bereaved person, you must be especially sensitive and kind. This isn’t about you and your problems. It has to be completely about them and their needs.

In the beginning, all hell is breaking loose around them and your job is to make sure they are shielded from as much additional trauma as possible.

Things that will help:

Visit Brad Yates’ youtube channel will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. His videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward.

Here are some meditation music to help you rest.

You can order your Bach’s Rescue Remedy by clicking on the link below and then tab at the top of their page for Rescue Remedy Products. Remember, these do have alcohol in them.

I use the Rescue Remedy 20ml drops but they have spray and other versions which might work better for you. And…they also have products to calm pets, too, which we used for beloved Joshua.

*To find a homeopathic doctor, visit here or here. Many offer phone consultations if you cannot find one in your area. They work with patients around the globe. You can also research in your area of the world.

Please share with anyone who may need to know this. Also rate and review this podcast on whichever podcast platform you listened in.

Bless you for helping your special friend or loved one.

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Permission To Move Forward

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In Episode 24, we look at giving ourselves permission to grieve and, simultaneously, consider what we can do which will bring us joy again. Each day, in a small way, we are rebuilding a new life, even if we don’t want to.

At some point, when the shock has subsided and you begin to realize that this is your new life, you take a long hard look in the mirror and decide you will become a victim or a victor.

Each one of us has that choice.

And while it’s definitely not an easy choice, it’s one that needs to be made.

Because there is no doubt you will miss your loved one terribly, but at the same time, you don’t have to give up your life because they are no longer here.

Now, you might wish that you could trade places, but that’s not possible.

And you might wish you didn’t have to go through this because you still can’t believe they’ve died or were killed.

But whether we like it or not, each day we wake up we are slowly making a new life for ourselves with the decisions we make all day long.

In this episode, we discuss that new road you are carving out for yourself.

Like it or not.

Listen in to Episode 24 here or on your favorite podcasting platform.

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Mother’s Day Can Sting

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In Episode 23, we remember our mothers and mother figures who made an impact on our lives. We also discuss the pain of bereaved mothers, ladies who struggle to bear the title and those who will never be called “Mom.”

The pain from a mother’s death is often severe especially if we had a wonderful relationship with our Moms.

But, sometimes, our relationship wasn’t as we would expect and we struggle with the ‘what if’s’ and perhaps guilt that may bring.

Yet whatever the relationship, good or bad, that we had with her, we must forgive ourselves and even moreso her for what you needed that you didn’t get, for what you and she said to each other that stung, and all the unfinished business that might still linger that neither of you can do anything about anymore.

We also recognize all the mother figures who raised you and cared for you if your Mom died younger than expected.

And we also talk about bereaved mothers who have buried their child, children or even all their children.

Lastly, we look at women who struggle to have children, those who miscarried or had a stillborn child, as well as those who deal with infertility and/or the knowledge that they may never have children of their own. We also remember women who are older now and wished they had children years ago when it was still possible, or those who never found the right husband to raise a family.

This can be a very melancholy day for some. Let us acknowledge them all.

Listen in to Episode 23 here or on your favorite podcasting platform.

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | A Cousin’s Death | Coping With The Inability To Be At Your Loved One’s Deathbed

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In Episode 22, I wanted to speak about the experience of having had a loved one die of the coronavirus and how that affects us.

Dianne M. Daniels, who is taking the same online course as I am, was gracious to provide her outlook after the death of her beloved cousin, Alexis.

A bright, beautiful and accomplished women, Alexis was also an entrepreneur who is survived by her husband, Arthur, two children, David and Olivia, as well as her mother DeeDee, and countless other family members who will miss her terribly. Alexis’ battle against the virus took her life on April 10th.

Dianne speaks of how the weeks leading up to Alexis’ death were filled with anxiety yet hopefulness. Alexis had had allergies and breathing difficulties including asthma which meant she was at greater risk to contract the virus.

Dianne M. Daniels
Alexis Wyatt Williams

Listen in to Episode 22 to hear more about Dianne’s experience leading up to the death of her cousin, Alexis.

Also in this episode, I discuss how to cope with the inability to be with those who were in nursing facilities and hospitals and died without family near.

There are so many complicated emotions which arise from a coronavirus death.

Before this virus struck us and quarantined our families, we would simply go to their home, the nursing home, the hospital or other facility and be with them as they passed away.

But not being able to do that just now has added guilt, anger, a feeling of impotence and other emotions which we would be smart to deal with now, right here, so these feeling don’t linger and spiral out of control.

Listen in to Episode 22, share with those who might be in need of comfort and knowledge and rate and review wherever you hear my podcast.

Learn EFT by visiting Brad Yates’ youtube channel. His video on Overwhelm will also help you.

Navy Seals breathing exercise to calm you, decrease anxiety.

Get my free book “The 21 Things You Must Know About the Grieving Process” by completing the form and you’ll receive an email with link to obtain it.

Blessings to the Williams and Daniels families as they grieve the loss of Alexis.

Stay well, stay safe. xoxo