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Learning To Love Ourselves | The Mary Mac Show

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

This week, in Episode 150, we discuss how we can learn to love ourselves and allow others to love us through the pain of losing a loved one.

When we first experienced the death of a loved one, we are embraced by many people, usually at the end of their life, if they were ill and later at the funeral services that are developed.

Some may even stay with you for a week or so, while you get acclimated to functioning without them.

But you quickly learn that when they leave, you aren’t settled at all.

You struggle to balance a new life for yourself and your grief. That is part of the process.

You go through many emotional and physical challenges, maybe even financial challenges which take you down several roads, some of which you might not want to encounter.

But through all of this, there will come a time when you have to take the focus off of them and put it back on you.

You are entitled to love yourself through all this pain.

To recognize that no matter what is happening YOU ARE ENOUGH just the way you are.

One of my favorite teachers is Marissa Peer who teaches us that we are enough at every place in our life.

And it is this wisdom that will help you along your journey because it’s important that we not stay stuck in grief forever.

Some people do this and decide that if our loved one is not with us any longer, they can no long have a wonderful life.

And I don’t want that for you.

Please don’t wear the black veil forever.

And, I know, you won’t be physically wearing it on your head, but you know you’re wearing it over your heart.

Let others love you.

Let yourself love you!

No matter what happened, and how they died, at some point consciously take off that veil and tell your loved one you love them and it’s now time for you.

Bless you my friend, my warrior!


Additional Notes:

Marisa Peer’s “Loving Yourself” and I Am Enough, and a compilation of other wonderful videos on this topic – must watch!

Visit this compilation of loving yourself EFT videos by Julie Schiffman who will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. Her videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward.

Here are some meditation music video choices to help you rest.

Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.

Visit GriefAuthority.com for my 3 book Bundle of Hope set to help you through your grieving process.

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Using Prayer to Gain Peace | The Mary Mac Show

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 147, we discuss the power of prayer in our lives after we’ve experienced the death of a loved one and how it can give us peace as we move through our grieving process.

Now you may be thinking “really…will this work?”

Well if you’ve never used prayer to bring you peace, especially when you feel like all hell is breaking loose around you, then I’d say “Yes…give it a try. You have nothing to lose.”

Now in this day and age, many think that it’s not necessary or ‘cool’ to attend church on Sundays, or watch an online service wherever you are.

It can be as easy as clicking a few buttons on your television remote and you can tap into almost any service you’d like to try.

Not all pastors or leaders may resonate with you; so find another.

But the significance of prayer itself is that it is a way of communicating, talking to God one on one.

It’s a conversation.

It’s a relationship.

And you can do it anywhere you are.

When you are in such pain, either because you’re missing the one you love, or because you need direction in life since they died, or because you are confused as to why all of this is happening, wouldn’t it be calming to speak with the creator of the universe?

Now your family and friends may be think it’s a waste of time.

But you aren’t them.

You need comfort and a sense of calm in your life and that can come from a relationship with God.

He’s right there for you…you only need to reach out.

So take time today to listen in to Episode 147.

You might wonder if you’ll get anything out of it.

But I believe rebuilding or developing a prayer life will help you tremendously with your grief and with the uncertainties of life.

And yes you might be wrestling with your anger at God for what you think He did or didn’t do when your loved one died or was killed.

But flipping that around to gaining his peace, the peace that passes all understanding, is by far more comforting than handling all your emotions alone.

One of my favorite songs is “What a Beautiful Name.” I realize this is part of my faith, but it might really soothe you, regardless. When you realize it has 435 million views, it obviously resonates mightily with people around the world!

Bless you my friend.

Additional Notes:

You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.

If you need knowledge as to what to expect when you’re grieving, visit www.GriefAuthority.com and pick up my 3 Book Bundle of Hope which you can immediately download 24/7 anywhere in the world. It is important to not guess if what you’re feeling is part of this process. With my books, you will know what happens during this time so you’ll have your mind at ease. Go get them now.

If you are grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

Consider joining The Mary Mac Show Community so we can support you and love on you, answer your questions and make friends while you move through your grieving process.

The Mary Mac Show Encore | Grieving a World We Once Knew II

The Mary Mac Show PodcastIn Episode 135 Part I of “Grieving a World We Once Knew” we discussed the uncertainties in our world, inflation, pandemic issues, and how we must reevaluate what is important to us and how to cope when we have little control over our new world.

When we are dealing with a loved one’s death, it is expected that we will experience various challenges to our physical health, mental health, financial health, spiritual health and intellectual health.

And now that we have the additional stress, anxiety and possible overwhelm with our society changing at such a rapid pace, it is that much more important that we look at how it is affecting us in addition to the grief we feel for our loved one.

Don’t take this lightly.

It is imperative that you care for yourself and your family during these times.

We unfortunately do not have the luxury of only considering our bereavement. We are now tasked with learning how to fully care for ourselves in many way.

Listen in to Part II in Episode 136, to learn how to better prepare yourself for the times ahead.

Please take time to share your experiences and comments below so others can learn from you.

Stay Strong and Bless you my friend.

Additional Notes:

As you know I am a great believer in the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique.

Here are a few videos that I think will help you tremendously:
EFT Video for Grief after Death of a Loved One, EFT Video for Anxiety, EFT Video for Releasing Stress and Tension, and How to do Surrogate EFT.

Subscribe to Full Spectrum Survival, which gives important information on how to survive what we believe is up ahead for us. Learn as much as you can, as quickly as you can. And stock up on food, water and supplies.

If you need someone to chat with, don’t be shy. It’s totally confidential. Go to Crisis Connections page on my website MaryMac.info to find telephone numbers for Crisis Hotlines around the world.

As promised, here are some of the additional faith-based hotlines you can call for prayer and to calm you:

Trinity Broadcasting Network – TBN (714)731-1000
700 Club (800)759-0700
Joel Osteen Prayer Request (713)491-1283 or toll free at (888)567-5635
(I also enjoy Joel Osteen’s Daily Podcast)

If you need help finding people who will understand your exact pain, visit my Grief Resources page.

Visit GriefAuthority.com to purchase my Bundle of Hope Books which includes my book Understanding Your Grieving Heart After a Loved One’s death, the first and best book to reach for as you deal with your grief and How to Help a Grieving Child After a Loved One’s Death to help your surviving children.

You’re welcome to send your questions to the Contact page on my site.

You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.

Please subscribe, rate and review on The Mary Mac Show website or Apple Podcasts!

Much Love,

The Mary Mac Show Encore | Grieving a World We Once Knew I

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 135, I speak briefly about the grief we feel after the death of an individual and how that correlates to the grief we feel as a nation in light of all that is going on in our world today.

I first created this episode in the fall of 2020 and felt it was quite appropriate for all that is going on right now.

So much has happened in our world since then and life is getting more crazy with each passing day.

Oil prices have skyrocketed, inflation has caused food and products to sometimes double and even triple in price for less weight, energy prices to cool and heat our homes have increased, but wages have stayed stagnant.

The cost to own or rent a home or apartment is quickly pricing many out of shelter and with the increase in interest rates, those who once could obtain a mortgage can no longer do so.

People cannot afford to purchase a car or most large ticket items any longer and it is causing a serious struggle to just make ends meet.

And our ability to speak freely has been seriously curtailed in social media.

It is becoming increasingly obvious that life as we knew it before the pandemic will most likely never return again.

And with the United States government printing so much money it can’t pay back, it seems we are being pushed down an unnecessary road that leads to war with Russia and others.

None of this looks like it will end in the people’s favor.

People around the world know oppression and the inability to speak their mind. And, we too, are now having our free speech rights curtailed by those who wish to take our freedoms away.

I know people around the world who have lived in Socialist and Communist countries have experienced this grief – suppression of speech, personal freedoms and seen much violence leading to the death of family and friends.

Here, we are grieving for our nation as we are unaccustomed to having our liberties, property or lifestyle affected by those who don’t love our nation.

So if you’ve felt oppressed in your part of the world, you are welcomed to share your experiences and comments below.

With Love,

Mary Mac