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Using Prayer to Gain Peace | The Mary Mac Show

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 147, we discuss the power of prayer in our lives after we’ve experienced the death of a loved one and how it can give us peace as we move through our grieving process.

Now you may be thinking “really…will this work?”

Well if you’ve never used prayer to bring you peace, especially when you feel like all hell is breaking loose around you, then I’d say “Yes…give it a try. You have nothing to lose.”

Now in this day and age, many think that it’s not necessary or ‘cool’ to attend church on Sundays, or watch an online service wherever you are.

It can be as easy as clicking a few buttons on your television remote and you can tap into almost any service you’d like to try.

Not all pastors or leaders may resonate with you; so find another.

But the significance of prayer itself is that it is a way of communicating, talking to God one on one.

It’s a conversation.

It’s a relationship.

And you can do it anywhere you are.

When you are in such pain, either because you’re missing the one you love, or because you need direction in life since they died, or because you are confused as to why all of this is happening, wouldn’t it be calming to speak with the creator of the universe?

Now your family and friends may be think it’s a waste of time.

But you aren’t them.

You need comfort and a sense of calm in your life and that can come from a relationship with God.

He’s right there for you…you only need to reach out.

So take time today to listen in to Episode 147.

You might wonder if you’ll get anything out of it.

But I believe rebuilding or developing a prayer life will help you tremendously with your grief and with the uncertainties of life.

And yes you might be wrestling with your anger at God for what you think He did or didn’t do when your loved one died or was killed.

But flipping that around to gaining his peace, the peace that passes all understanding, is by far more comforting than handling all your emotions alone.

One of my favorite songs is “What a Beautiful Name.” I realize this is part of my faith, but it might really soothe you, regardless. When you realize it has 435 million views, it obviously resonates mightily with people around the world!

Bless you my friend.
xoxo

Additional Notes:

You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.

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If you are grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

Consider joining The Mary Mac Show Community so we can support you and love on you, answer your questions and make friends while you move through your grieving process.

Grieving For HRH Queen Elizabeth II | The Mary Mac Show

There are only a handful of experiences in one’s life that we would consider significantly important.

And the death of the United Kingdom’s Her Royal Highness, Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, is one of them.

While I’m not a citizen of the UK, my family heritage touches Scotland and Ireland and I feel a great affinity to the people of the UK and its monarch.

I’ve studied British History since I was a youngster having read countless biographies, watched documentaries and followed its good and not so good history.

Last year I created a commemorative episode to honor HRH Prince Philip after he died just shy of his 100th birthday. Ironically, he died on my birthday and I spent hours watching the tributes online and on television.

When his custom-made Range Rover was being driven to pick up his casket for the service, I was overcome by the beautiful music that the military band was playing. Here is a snapshot of when they played “I Vow to Thee, My Country” a beautifully solemn hymn:

And here is the episode I created when he passed on and the corresponding blog:

But on Thursday evening, 8th of September 2022, Her Majesty went on to be with her beloved husband almost one and one-half years after his death.

Only two days before, on Tuesday, she welcomed her 15th Prime Minister, Winston Churchill having been her first.

This week, in Episode 146, I remember HRH Queen Elizabeth II and the 96 years she graced this earth and the over 70 years she reigned and wore the Crown.

Her grieving four children, eight grandchildren and twelve great-grandchildren will forever remember her. And we send our condolences on the death of such a remarkable lady.

We also acknowledge all the citizens of the United Kingdom and the Commonwealth Realms who loved her especially those who served her in all capacities during her reign.

You, too, feel the loss and you should always recognize that your sadness is legitimate and honored.

A perfect testament is just by watching the crowds and how they waited to walk past her casket in Scotland and again in London. All the people who lined the streets and waited in line for nearly a day to enter into Westminster Hall to witness history.

My memory of the Queen was back in 1977 when I was fortunate to have visited London with my parents for her Silver Jubilee. We had gone to the theatre one evening and the cab driver pointed out that if we walked down the block, the queen would be coming out after the opera and we might catch a glimpse of her.

My father lifted my camera, and just kept clicking when her car slowly drove by and to our surprise when we returned home, we had gotten a perfect shot of her. I still have that photo and cherish it.

The lights were on in the car so everyone could see her and Prince Philip. She looked so beautiful, waving to everyone.

Another touching tribute was from Paddington Bear on her Platinum Jubilee earlier this year. When he said “Thank you for Everything”, well I was so overwhelmed because at 96 we really didn’t know how many more years we would have with her.

Take a look:

To everyone who is grieving the loss of a Monarch, Mother, Grandmother, GreatGrandmother and Friend, we send you our sympathies and love.

And to the new King Charles III and Camilla, Queen Consort we acknowledge a new reign and wish the very best to you.

A look at Her Majesty’s life:

Her funeral will be tomorrow, Monday 19th September 2022 at 11am British Time, 6am Eastern Time in the US. I will be watching with you.

Bless you, my friend,

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Trusting Ourself

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 143, we discuss how to trust ourself to know what we need throughout the grieving process and not allow others to dictate how we grieve or our timeframe.

In life there will always be people who want you to behave and act in a certain way so they will feel comfortable.

They might expect too much of you.

They might expect that you should go back to the way you were before your loved one died.

They might expect that you’d be over this by now.

But they aren’t you!

Only you know what is going to work for you.

Only you know what feels right for you.

And only you can assess what your journey through the grieving process will be for you.

No one else.

But many people feel it’s their way of helping you by giving unsolicited advice.

But that won’t work for you.

The only thing you need is to consider what works and what doesn’t work for YOU.

No one else.

Listen in to Episode 143 to help you better understand this process.

Listen to that still small voice inside which tells you the better way forward.

And take action based on it.

Bless you, my Warrior!

Additional Notes:

Help yourself by learning the Emotional Freedom Technique on how to trust yourself.

Here are some meditation music to help you rest.

Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.

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The Mary Mac Show | Placing Blame Where It Belongs

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In Episode 142, we discuss what happens when a loved one’s death caused extreme embarrassment for you and the family and how to release that pain so you can build a new life.

Maybe your loved one experimented or was deep into opioid drugs, heroin, cocaine, fentanyl. Maybe they have been involved in gangs. Perhaps driving while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Involved in domestic abuse of their spouse or even decided to take their own life.

All of these situations are the direct result of their personal behavior and decisions they made in their lives.

And, unfortunately, they can bring great embarrassment to you afterwards.

In this week’s episode I delve into the great pain you feel after they’ve died and left the mess they did for you.

To save face, many families will not talk about what happened.

They may tell all kinds of tails, especially to younger children, about how a person died. Maybe even telling them a family member died of cancer instead of AIDS, or an accident when it was suicide.

They will say things like they ‘accidentally overdosed’ or they will not disclose in their obituary how they died.

They will use words like ‘died unexpectedly’ but they never tell the entire story.

Now there are a lot of connotations to those two possibilities.

And it leaves people to wonder if the death was much worse than it really was.

A person could have ‘died unexpectedly’ in a car crash, heart attack, stroke, died in their sleep. So many ways. But none of those would cause the family to be embarrassed, now would they?

I guess I’m perplexed about how someone can ‘accidentally overdose’. They knew they were taking the drugs. They knew how much they were taking. They knew the risks involved with such powerful drugs. And when they reached out to a drug dealer, they knew they were putting themselves in great harm.

There wasn’t anything ‘accidental’ about it. And the possibility that they actually wanted to take their life using drugs still floats out there. But many families don’t want to entertain that thought.

When someone gets into a car and they’ve been drinking and taking drugs, they know the risk of killing others and themselves but that wasn’t their priority at that time. So when they kill others and themselves in that car crash, their family is devastated. Along with the family of those he or she killed with their recklessness.

If someone joined a gang, more than likely they had to prove themselves by killing someone, usually an innocent person. And then when they themselves are killed along the way, their family is embarrassed and distraught for what they did.

If a husband or wife is accustomed to beating on their spouse and this is a continual occurrence, and then one day they go too far and the battered spouse is killed, maybe to make the news in the papers, how difficult is it for the surviving family to endure.

Perhaps they took their own life, in so many manners – drugs, hung themselves, drove their car into a lake, stockpile, a huge truck or even used a gun to kill themselves. Suicide is not accidental by any means.

In this week’s episode I encourage survivors to get brutally honest about what really happened because if you’re still lying to yourself, you will stay stuck in your grief and not allow yourself to rebuild a life where you thrive.

So listen in to Episode 142 to learn ways to deal with this.

Blessings to you.
xoxo

Additional Notes:

If you are ill or grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

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The Mary Mac Show | Death of Dory’s Father II

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 140, I continued my discussion with Dory Fier of Indianapolis, IN, a pediatric social worker, who shares with us the terminal diagnosis her father received and his nine-month battle with an inoperable brain tumor.

In this second of two episodes, Dory and I delve deeply into how she dealt with the aftermath of his death and the physical symptoms that appeared for her.

We discuss how she wished she had taken advantage of the support system that wanted to help her and was grateful for those who did offer her assistance.

We also spoke about the difference between grieving an anticipatory death vs. a sudden death and her thoughts on that.

I am so grateful for the time Dory spent with me and I believe her courage to share this experience will benefit and bless you whether you are going through this struggle now or may in the future.

Much Love to Dory and her family!

xoxo

Additional Notes:

If you are ill or grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.