Category Archives: Possessions | Belongings

The Mary Mac Show | Handling Our Loved One’s Belongings

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 144, we discuss how best to deal with our loved one’s belongings after their death.

This can be one of the most difficult decision-making processes we will go through during our grieving process.

Some people in our circle want us to get rid of their photos soon after the funeral.

Some people tell you it’s necessary to put all their clothes and other things away.

But this is both unwise and unnecessary.

Only you can make these decisions and you need to not allow anyone else decide for you.

It can be comforting to have their ‘stuff’ around to smell, hold, look at, and just be near you.

You might feel better sitting in their favorite chair, wearing their sweater, holding their stuffed animal, maybe their pillow as you sleep.

These decisions are something only you can do.

Don’t let anyone force you into making these decisions too soon.

Listen in to Episode 144 to get a better understanding of the various emotions and challenges you may feel and deal with during your grieving process.

Bless you, my Warrior!

Additional Notes:

Help yourself by learning the Emotional Freedom Technique on how to deal with grief.

Here are some meditation music to help you rest.

Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.

Join The Mary Mac Show Community to join others who are grieving to gain the support and understanding you need as you move through your journey. Don’t isolate; stay connected.

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The Mary Mac Show | Creating End of Life Choices

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In Episode 91, we discuss the courageous act of developing a plan for what we would like to happen should we become ill, unable to care for ourselves, or die and the decisions that need to be made so our families know of our desires.

Talking about our end of life planning is not something that most of us considers.

It is uncomfortable and quite frankly, we usually don’t know where to start, even if we decided it was something that we should do.

Most times, something dramatic has taken place which stirs us to consider that it would be a wise decision to do so.

Perhaps someone in our lives died suddenly.

Perhaps someone has a serious diagnosis that might be terminal.

It is at these times that dealing with the subject of death becomes more relevant in our lives.

That’s not to say we like it. Absolutely not.

Most of us find it abhorrent that we need to deal with this issue.

But at some point, and hopefully sooner than later, we take on the uncomfortable task of thinking about a will, a do-not-resusitate order (DNR), a living will, and possibly a trust so that our loved ones will understand our wishes when our life nears its end.

In this episode we talk about these legal documents and help you start to engage in these difficult tasks that need decisions and must be attended to if you want your loved ones to know of your desires.

The last thing you want is to leave behind chaos when you die. It causes stress among the family members who must sort out what they think you wanted versus what you did want.

So please take the time to listen in to Episode 91.

Don’t be afraid of this difficult topic. You and your family will be so grateful you took the time and energy to lay out your wishes before you leave them.

Bless you!

Additional Notes:

If you are ill or grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

If my podcast has helped you, I’d love for you to buy me a coffee to show your support! Thanks!

The Mary Mac Show | Decisions That Should Wait

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 69, we look at major and minor decisions that should not be made immediately after a loved one’s death.

After we’ve experienced a loved one’s death, there are several things that we need to give further consideration to before we make those decisions.

Decisions such as whether to sell your home, whether to move, whether to consider a new job and so much more.

In this episode, we explore the emotional and practical sides of these decisions which need great care. The ramifications of making these decisions can affect not only you, but those who are also affected by their loved one’s death, and whose lives can be turned upside down because of how you handle things.

Take the time you need and listen in to Episode 69 for guidance.

Bless you, my friend. My warrior!


Additional Notes:

Visit Crisis Connections at my website to telephone a trained counselor to speak with whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, frightened, fearful or any host of emotions.

Learn the Emotional Freedom Technique here for Stress and Overwhelm. It will soothe you and calm you physically and emotionally. Also spend time in this guided meditation on Self Compassion, which we all need. Dr. Arianna also offers many wonderful tapping and guided-meditations to choose from based upon which is best for you.

You can watch Marissa Peer’s “I Am Enough” meditation.

Bach’s Rescue Remedy will calm and soothe you. Remember, it does have alcohol in if, if that is a concern for you.

Treat yourself to a lovely gift from our Heart of Gold “I Remember” Products from The Mary Mac Store.

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

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The Mary Mac Show | Our Loved One’s Belongings

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

This week in Episode 31, we discuss how the bereaved struggle with when or if to release their loved one’s belongings, and how to best deal with this difficult process.

The most important thing to know is NOT to touch, launder, move anything from where it was when the person died. That task is left only to the person closest to the one who died and only they will decided what to do with their loved one’s possessions.

This is something that will take a long time, often many years, and even then they may choose to keep them as is.

Each of us is different and we need to honor their decisions.

Some things that will help along this journey to ease the pain:

Visit Brad Yates’ youtube channel will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. His videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward.

Here are some meditation music to help you rest.

You can order your Bach’s Rescue Remedy by clicking on the link below and then tab at the top of their page for Rescue Remedy Products. Remember, these do have alcohol in them.

I use the Rescue Remedy 20ml drops but they have spray and other versions which might work better for you. And…they also have products to calm pets, too.

*To find a homeopathic doctor, visit here or here. Many offer phone consultations if you cannot find one in your area. They work with patients around the globe. You can also research in your area of the world.

Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.

Please share with anyone who may need to know this. Also subscribe, rate and review this podcast on whichever podcast platform you listened in.