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The Mary Mac Show | Handling Our Loved One’s Belongings

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 144, we discuss how best to deal with our loved one’s belongings after their death.

This can be one of the most difficult decision-making processes we will go through during our grieving process.

Some people in our circle want us to get rid of their photos soon after the funeral.

Some people tell you it’s necessary to put all their clothes and other things away.

But this is both unwise and unnecessary.

Only you can make these decisions and you need to not allow anyone else decide for you.

It can be comforting to have their ‘stuff’ around to smell, hold, look at, and just be near you.

You might feel better sitting in their favorite chair, wearing their sweater, holding their stuffed animal, maybe their pillow as you sleep.

These decisions are something only you can do.

Don’t let anyone force you into making these decisions too soon.

Listen in to Episode 144 to get a better understanding of the various emotions and challenges you may feel and deal with during your grieving process.

Bless you, my Warrior!

Additional Notes:

Help yourself by learning the Emotional Freedom Technique on how to deal with grief.

Here are some meditation music to help you rest.

Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.

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The Mary Mac Show Community

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 141, I welcome my listeners in over 85 countries and other bereaved individuals to join my new online membership – The Mary Mac Show Community – which I’ve created to help you feel supported through your grieving process.

In these uncertain time with violence growing in many places around the world, I felt an urgent need to provide a safe online portal where those grieving a death of a loved one, or those who anticipate the imminent death of someone significant in their life, would be able to visit as often as they wished, to share their challenges, anger, guilt, and many more emotional struggles as they dealt with their grief.

Many people do not have the financial resources to pay for individual counseling because insurance rarely pays for it.

Also, it is often difficult to find a counselor who has experienced the exact type of death a bereaved individual has experienced.

Consequently, the bereaved winds up training the counselor and pays for the training, too.

The Mary Mac Show Community offers many features which I’ve been searching for over a long time.

Visit here to learn more and click on the link on the bottom of the page to join us.

We also provide our 7-day free feature to get you started; you can cancel at any time.

I look forward to seeing you in our community and getting to know you!

Mary Mac
xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Death of Dory’s Father II

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 140, I continued my discussion with Dory Fier of Indianapolis, IN, a pediatric social worker, who shares with us the terminal diagnosis her father received and his nine-month battle with an inoperable brain tumor.

In this second of two episodes, Dory and I delve deeply into how she dealt with the aftermath of his death and the physical symptoms that appeared for her.

We discuss how she wished she had taken advantage of the support system that wanted to help her and was grateful for those who did offer her assistance.

We also spoke about the difference between grieving an anticipatory death vs. a sudden death and her thoughts on that.

I am so grateful for the time Dory spent with me and I believe her courage to share this experience will benefit and bless you whether you are going through this struggle now or may in the future.

Much Love to Dory and her family!

xoxo

Additional Notes:

If you are ill or grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

The Mary Mac Show | Death of Dory’s Father I

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 139, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dory Fier of Indianapolis, IN, a pediatric social worker, who shares with us the terminal diagnosis her father received and his nine-month battle with an inoperable brain tumor.

In this first of two episodes, Dory and I delve deeply into all aspects of her father’s battle with glioblastoma, his original stroke misdiagnosis and dealing with paralysis for the remainder of his life.

She speaks candidly about how she, her sister and mother rallied around her Dad and cared for him during those nine months, moving him back to Indianapolis where they lived, from his then home in New Mexico.

She also discusses the toll it took on herself mentally, physically and how she juggled it all with her personal and professional life.

I am so grateful for the time Dory spent with me and I believe her courage to share this experience will benefit and bless you whether you are going through this struggle now or may in the future.

Listen in next Sunday to hear Part II of our interview.

Much Love to Dory and her family!

xoxo

Additional Notes:

If you are ill or grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.

The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.

When is Enough Enough?

I’m always amazed at how doctors will tell you they cannot ‘cure’ your illness, cancer, etc. but at the same time tell you they can still ‘treat’ it. Exactly what does that mean, anyhow?

Well what that means is this…’treat’ is codeword for “I don’t have anything else to offer you, the cancer cannot be cured, we cannot operate, but you might as well do chemo and radiation anyway.” This makes me absolutely crazy.

So when is enough, enough? When is it time to acknowledge the chemo and radiation are really ways to finance the hospitals and medical machine that is the second largest GDP in the USA – cancer.

Will it cure the cancer? No. Can they operate and take out the cancer – in this particular case – no.

So, knowing that, exactly why would you want to put yourself through the pain of radiation and the sickness that comes with chemo. The poison will not make you better, only worse.

There comes a time when you have a serious question to ask yourself. When do I recognize that this is my time and better to live out whatever time I do have left without treatments that will not make me better, just because a doctor has prescribed them and so we go along with what he says.

I have seen this time and time again. There will come a time that no medicine will help…instead it will make life more miserable. It will make the last months/years of your life a living hell, going to chemo treatments, undergoing radiation, for what?

Instead, a serious assessment of possibilities are necessary. Can natural health alternative help better at this point? If you know the illness cannot be cured, wouldn’t it be better to enjoy your last time with your family and when pain medication was needed, have the doctor prescribe a morphine patch.

This way, you get to truly LIVE the rest of your life. You get to enjoy your family at home, instead of going for rounds and rounds of treatments which will do no good. You get to spend time talking about your life together, reminiscing about old memories, prepare the young people in your life for your passing, get to say all the things you needed to say to those you loved but never could.

If you’re well enough, do the things now that you didn’t get a chance to do before you get too weak. Visit your friends, write the letters, plan your funeral the way you want it. Maybe even make a video to tell them how much you love them.

So yes, it’s a bold step to refuse further treatment…but someone has to be strong enough to say out loud what everyone’s thinking anyway.

Enjoy what time you have. Don’t succumb to the only options doctors have to offer.