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The Mary Mac Show | When You Couldn’t Say Goodbye

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

This week, on my podcast, we discuss what we go through when we couldn’t say goodbye to someone we loved.

Whether it’s Covid and we weren’t allowed in a hospital or healthcare setting, or earthquakes, avalanches, tornadoes, floods, fires, hurricanes, tsunami, cyclones, explosions, car or plane crashes, all these prevent us to say goodbye if we were not present at these scenes.

There were also sudden death like heart attacks, strokes, homicide, suicide, even terrorism.

And we must remember all the military deaths, especially their bodies were so mutilated or affected by an explosion and there were only small parts or nothing to bury. Many of our men and women, who sacrificed their life for your freedom, never came home at all.

Join me in listening in to Episode 39 to take a look at how to deal with our grief when we couldn’t be with them when they died.

Additional Notes:

Visit Brad Yates’ youtube channel will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. His videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward. Here are two specific videos that will help you.

Marisa Peer’s “Loving Yourself” and “I Am Enough” – these are wonderful videos – must watch!

Here are some meditation music video choices to help you rest.

Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.

Also, I hope you will help support my podcast by using the links on my page at www.MaryMac.info! It would be much appreciated.

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xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Memorial Day | Remembering Their Ultimate Sacrifice

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

This week we commemorate our military men and women who have given the ultimate sacrifice for our country – they have died to keep our citizens free and safe.

In other parts of the world, each country honors their military, perhaps not at this exact time, but nonetheless, losing a loved one who has served in your country’s military is a difficult loss.

Some military, in various countries, cannot be trusted and this makes it even more difficult.

In Episode 25, we discuss our pain after someone we love, who was serving in the military, is killed in action and how our lives are suddenly turned upside down.

Below are various links that can put you in touch with other families who are also grieving a military death. Even if you are not in the USA, please do reach out to TAPS International which can connect you to someone who knows exactly what you are going through. And, if you have listened in to my podcast regularly, you know that it’s the relationship and not the label that’s important!

Here are some places to visit (you can also find them in the show notes on podcast Episode 25:

TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors) if you’ve experienced the military death of a loved one. They also help children and teens with camps and programs.

TAPS International which helps families around the globe.

American Gold Star Mothers for those who have experienced the military death of a son or daughter.

Sons and Daughters in Touch for those missing their fathers killed in the Vietnam War in the USA.

Gold Star Family Registry gives you the ability to search a loved one or friend who was killed in military conflict.

To help bring you to emotional stability, visit Brad Yates’ youtube channel will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. His videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward.

*To find a homeopathic doctor, visit here or here. Many offer phone consultations if you cannot find one in your area. They work with patients around the globe. You can also research in your area of the world.

Remembering your special loved one and you, too, who sacrificed so much for your nation.

xoxo

Memorial Day 2014

276240_100000410189176_563033050_nEach year when this day rolls around, I am reminded of all the sacrifice a family makes when their loved one goes away to protect the freedoms we Americans enjoy each day.

And while I’m so amazed at what it takes to be in the military and fight overseas with the constant threat of being killed, if they’re in a combat situation, I feel it’s also important to recognize the sacrifices a family makes throughout the entire tour.

A spouse who is left to raise a young family by themselves perhaps on a military base. The inadequate stipend they are given to raise that family. The increased level of responsibility they must endure.

And if their beloved is killed, they are left to raise that family alone.

Today I salute not only the veterans and remember all those who were killed to secure our freedoms, but for all the family members who are or have grieved a military family member’s death and the difficult road to recovery on an emotional as well as financial level.

I salute you!

Veterans Day 2011 – 11/11/11

On Veterans Day I have the great honor of remembering all the wonderful people in my life who have served in the United States Military both here and abroad.

I think of my Dad, who served in the Army in France during the Korean War, my one Uncle who was a Marine in the Pacific during World War II and witnessed great horrors, my other Uncle who was in the Marines and was an honor guard at Arlington National Cemetery in DC.

I also think of all my friends who lost brothers during Vietnam. I was in high school when their older brothers were coming home in caskets. Those thoughts don’t leave you.

Now I admire those close friends who have voluntarily given of themselves in either active duty or in the reserves here at home.

A college friend whose husband is a Lt. Commander in the Navy, flying helicopters off aircraft carriers and she a Naval Surgeon. A Captain in the Army National Guard in NY, who I became friends with after her sister was murdered in Virginia. Another very close college buddy who served multiple tours in Bosnia and Iraq as a high ranking officer in the Army. And lately, a newer friend, who spent 23 years in the Marine Reserves as an MP.

I admire their courage, their sacrifice, their sense of duty to our citizens. Only honorable men and woman would dare step up for the benefit of their citizens.

They do this willingly with humility. They do so with integrity and faithfulness, devotion and great care. They live their lives with a sense of service to others, even when they leave active duty.

I guess that’s what I find so amazing…because a person with such high character is rare. And I am so grateful to call them my friends.

Navy Seal’s Dog Grieves Too


There is nothing more tragic than when good men, among the most elite in our military service, are killed in battle. But when 30 are killed in one crash, the nation should mourn. And the leaders of our country should stand up and proclaim a national day of mourning with flags lowered in their memory.

It took a few weeks for the bodies of these dedicated men to come back to their families for burial. And, at one memorable funeral, the devoted canine, a beautiful Labrador Retriever named Hawkeye, mourned his master, Navy Seal Jon Tumilson, originally of Rockford, Iowa.

When Scott Nichols, a dear friend of Jon’s, rose to give his eulogy, Hawkeye followed him up to the casket. With a huge sigh, this precious dog laid at the foot of the casket and didn’t move.

He knew exactly what was going on. He was in shock and understood that his master was dead. He stayed there to protect him for the last time.

There are people who believe that animals cannot or do not grieve the death of their owners. And this is proof that this theory is not true.

Like people, animals are devoted to those they love and who care for and about them. We feel this intense bond with our pets, so what would give us the idea they don’t also feel this bond with us?

Beyond protecting us, loyalty is a pet’s greatest gift to us. He is there whenever we are hurting, either physically or emotionally. He is the one who soothes us when no one else will. He is the one who greets us when no one else is around. He is the one who worries about us and sits near us when we’re sad, alone, hurt, disappointed. He knows how we feel and does whatever he can to make us feel better.

For this lovely dog, the tables are now turned. He is the sorrowful one and, like humans, it will take him some time to adjust to his loss. And like humans, he will feel depressed, perhaps not eat, lay around more than usual and tend not to play or participate in activities he may have in the past.

He also needs his time to be alone and sad, just like the rest of us. He has lost an amazing master and he feels the grief of all around him, also.

The pain associated with loving someone and losing someone is not exclusive to humans. Pets grieve, too and even though they can’t communicate in words their sorrow, it is evident through their actions.