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The Mary Mac Show | Memorial Day | Remembering Our Bravest

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 78, we honor the memory of those who were killed in the military and how we are affected by their deaths.

If we have family who are service members, we understand the sacrifice entire families make to serve our countries. It’s not just the person who is serving, it is also the rest of the family who has to reorganize their lives without the parent who helps raise the family.

And sometimes these are very long stretches and multiple deployments for these men and women.

But if your family does not have a person serving in the military, perhaps this is unknown to you.

Yet I want you to realize the great sacrifice these families endure, for the benefit of the rest of our citizens. And not just the wives and husbands, but the young ones, too.

And when someone in the military is killed, the families’ entire lives are uprooted.

Please remember our fallen heroes this weekend and when you hear of a bereaved military widow or widower, please help them in any way you can.

Additional Notes:

Visit Crisis Connections at my website to telephone a trained counselor to speak with whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, frightened, fearful or any host of emotions.

Learn the Emotional Freedom Technique here for Stress and Overwhelm. It will soothe you and calm you physically and emotionally. Also spend time in this guided meditation on Self Compassion, which we all need. Dr. Arianna also offers many wonderful tapping and guided-meditations to choose from based upon which is best for you.

You can watch Marissa Peer’s “I Am Enough” meditation.

TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors) if you’ve experienced the military death of a loved one. They also help children and teens with camps and programs.

TAPS International which helps families around the globe.

American Gold Star Mothers for those who have experienced the military death of a son or daughter.

Sons and Daughters in Touch for those missing their fathers killed in the Vietnam War in the USA.

Gold Star Family Registry gives you the ability to search a loved one or friend who was killed in military conflict.

*To find a homeopathic doctor, visit here or here. Many offer phone consultations if you cannot find one in your area. They work with patients around the globe. You can also research in your area of the world.

Treat yourself or a bereaved friend or relative to a lovely gift from our Heart of Gold “I Remember” Collection from The Mary Mac Store.

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

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The Mary Mac Show | Memorial Day | Remembering Their Ultimate Sacrifice

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

This week we commemorate our military men and women who have given the ultimate sacrifice for our country – they have died to keep our citizens free and safe.

In other parts of the world, each country honors their military, perhaps not at this exact time, but nonetheless, losing a loved one who has served in your country’s military is a difficult loss.

Some military, in various countries, cannot be trusted and this makes it even more difficult.

In Episode 25, we discuss our pain after someone we love, who was serving in the military, is killed in action and how our lives are suddenly turned upside down.

Below are various links that can put you in touch with other families who are also grieving a military death. Even if you are not in the USA, please do reach out to TAPS International which can connect you to someone who knows exactly what you are going through. And, if you have listened in to my podcast regularly, you know that it’s the relationship and not the label that’s important!

Here are some places to visit (you can also find them in the show notes on podcast Episode 25:

TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors) if you’ve experienced the military death of a loved one. They also help children and teens with camps and programs.

TAPS International which helps families around the globe.

American Gold Star Mothers for those who have experienced the military death of a son or daughter.

Sons and Daughters in Touch for those missing their fathers killed in the Vietnam War in the USA.

Gold Star Family Registry gives you the ability to search a loved one or friend who was killed in military conflict.

To help bring you to emotional stability, visit Brad Yates’ youtube channel will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. His videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward.

*To find a homeopathic doctor, visit here or here. Many offer phone consultations if you cannot find one in your area. They work with patients around the globe. You can also research in your area of the world.

Remembering your special loved one and you, too, who sacrificed so much for your nation.

xoxo

Memorial Day 2014

276240_100000410189176_563033050_nEach year when this day rolls around, I am reminded of all the sacrifice a family makes when their loved one goes away to protect the freedoms we Americans enjoy each day.

And while I’m so amazed at what it takes to be in the military and fight overseas with the constant threat of being killed, if they’re in a combat situation, I feel it’s also important to recognize the sacrifices a family makes throughout the entire tour.

A spouse who is left to raise a young family by themselves perhaps on a military base. The inadequate stipend they are given to raise that family. The increased level of responsibility they must endure.

And if their beloved is killed, they are left to raise that family alone.

Today I salute not only the veterans and remember all those who were killed to secure our freedoms, but for all the family members who are or have grieved a military family member’s death and the difficult road to recovery on an emotional as well as financial level.

I salute you!

To Always Remember Their Sacrifice

Memorial Day, 2008

In America, today we honor the men and women who have given the ultimate sacrifice by fighting in battles all around this globe, to keep our citizens free. Sometimes we forget that ours is an all volunteer military. We have no draft. We train these brave ones to kill the enemy so you and I can know that our existence in the United States is a safe one.

Yet, it is important to not only remember those killed, but the first-hand and second-hand survivors who are grieving as a result of those deaths.

If you consider any one person’s passing will have upward of 300 people who loved and cherished them, it is a staggering number of people who remember them today.Just think of their family members, friends, neighbors, the military, classmates, teammates, business colleagues, people they knew from church, synagogue, social circles, clubs, etc. And what about their parents’ and siblings’ friends who knew them. They are also affected.

So there is much I want to say here…

First, I’d like to address the grief of the spouse, parents, siblings, grandparents, children, other family members, friends and loved ones of a man or woman killed in the line of duty. Your loved one gave the ultimate sacrifice and every American citizen owes you a sincere thank you for enduring the pain you feel now, for the good of our citizens’ safety.

Secondly, are the needs of military families. Their spouses have been raising children on their own, with little support both financially or personally, and doing a great job at it as well. They struggle to make ends meet and it is beyond me how our Congress cannot make it easier on these active duty families.

They are going into credit card debt, as many citizens, just to survive. But they shouldn’t have to. Banks are foreclosing on homes, ruining credit ratings because credit cards haven’t been paid in a timely fashion. When you expect to be deployed for one tour, which turns into two and three tours, it sort of turns your life upside down.

It’s hard to worry about paying a credit card bill when your main mission today is staying alive and keeping those around you alive, all while in a foreign land. Do the people at these banks get it? Obviously not.

My solution…their debts should become frozen once they are deployed, not to gain a cent of interest or penalty nor become due again until six months after they’re home.

Exactly when will some Congressman or woman step up to the plate and make this right… Senator McCain – how about you?

And if this family experiences the death of their spouse in the line of duty, now they lose their homes, support systems, and more. They must leave the military bases and return to wherever they originally came. In the process they and their children lose their home, friends, classmates, neighbors, other military family’s support. They lose more than just their loved ones. Additionally, they lose income so it is now doubly hard for the surviving spouse to readjust to raising a family alone.

Next…the first hand survivors are also military; those who knew the soldier directly.

Prolonged deployments overseas only delay the grieving process. Wisdom says we must help these brave men and women achieve mental stability all along the way.

Yes, it is only natural that we repair their physical bodies, but we must treat their mental symptoms as well. Seeing multiple deaths during repeated tours overseas is something that stays with you. It is not easily released.

And when someone returns to the home they once knew, they are changed. And they need time to acclimate themselves to their old lives. One thing is certain – they are different now. They have seen too much and are not the same. How could they be?

This weekend I wish us to remember how difficult it must be to trade in a machine gun, grenade, and HumVee, back to a laptop, blackberry and IPOD. I can’t even imagine how that’s done.

And, lastly, second-hand survivors are the family members of these surviving military buddies who will come home, grieving their fellow soldiers’ deaths in combat, and their immediate family members here in the US are scrambling how best to help them through this grief, not to mention their need to acclimate themselves into society back here once again.

So I find it unconscionable that our elected officials do not make it a higher priority to have premier bereavement services available to the surviving families of the military personnel who have been killed and to every active duty soldier overseas and later, upon their return home, to serve them and their families as well.

Military death touches so many lives and we rarely acknowledge all the people affected. Let’s begin to better understand the domino effect of grief caused by war…and let’s effectively deal with it from the onset.