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The Mary Mac Show | Disenfranchised Grief II

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 61, Disenfranchised Grief II, we continue to delve into the trauma and pain mourners feel when they can’t fully express their loss after a loved one’s death and how to help ourselves cope.

Whether you are grieving a secret relationship where your partner dies and you can’t fully mourn publicly for their death, or perhaps someone has taken their life and shame and embarrassment make it difficult to share the circumstances surrounding their death, these are forms of disenfranchised grief.

Listen in today to learn more about how to deal with these difficult deaths.

Additional Notes:

To see my signature Heart of Gold “I Remember” Tees, Hoodies and other products at The Mary Mac Store, either for yourself or as a gift for someone grieving the death of a loved one, please go here. Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

Grief Grieving Hoodie

Find grief resources here. Call the national organization which best suits your grief to find local support groups or contact persons to help you.

Visit the “I Will Remember You – Grief Support and Grief Quotes” facebook group which helps you connect with others who are grieving. This is a wonderful private group originating from Australia, which you can join, where you can vent and share your story. Tell Shar we sent you!

Crisis Hotlines with outstanding counselors who are standing by to listen to your pain and help you. Excellent way to release your pain today.

If you are feeling shame either because you’ve imposed it on yourself for what you “think” a certain death means to you, or because others are making your feel that way, you might find solace in this EFT Tapping Video by Arianna Opper, D.O. She has a very soothing voice and aura.

If you’d like to explore her other videos, please go here.

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Much Love,

Mary Mac xoxo

When Valentine’s Day Isn’t The Same

Valentine’s Day symbolizes love and hope for the future. But sometimes, after we’ve lost someone special, it can be difficult to enjoy this day. And this is thoroughly understandable.

If you’re thinking of someone who is no longer with you today, try to remember the special Valentine’s Days you did get to share together. Try to remember the happier moments instead of dwelling on their absence.

Try to dig in and think of all the little things that you made special with them. The funny notes, the chocolates, maybe the gifts, the laughter.

Yes, today may not be like other Valentine’s Days you had in the past, yet you can try to do something special for yourself now. Could it be a lovely bubble bath, a round of golf, a special meal, a new pair of soft slippers, hot cocoa and a funny movie to move your mind toward hopefully things you wish to experience and create?

Being good to yourself when you’re hurting is key to moving forward. Don’t neglect your emotional needs and health.

And if you don’t hear it today from anyone else, let me say you are loved. You are loved by me and many others. I’m sure if you considered all the people you have helped in your life, there are many people who love you.

So do enjoy this day. Just because you feel the pain of loss does not mean you cannot also feel the joy of living.