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Birthdays, The Mary Mac Show

The Mary Mac Show | How to Honor Ourselves on Our Birthday

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In Episode 63, we look at ways to help ourselves as we approach our own special day each year after we’ve experienced a loved one’s death.

When we love and miss someone so much after they’ve died or were killed, there will come a day when our birthday is upon us.

We usually wonder how we will cope when their birthday or the anniversary of their death is approaching and how we will handle those days.

But somehow we don’t consider how our own birthday will be celebrated after their gone.

We don’t think that it will be as difficult for us because now they aren’t here to celebrate with us.

We don’t think about how we will reminisce about past birthdays we had with them and the gifts they gave us.

And that we won’t be getting those gifts from them again.

So in this episode, I wanted to talk about OUR Birthdays. How they affect us, how to prepare for them and how to give ourselves the love and care we deserve when they are no longer with us.

Bless you on this special day.

Be gentle with yourself.

And do celebrate YOUR life!!

Sending you much love and hugs.

xoxo

Additional Notes:

Treat yourself to our beautiful Heart of Gold “I Remember” TeeShirt from The Mary Mac Store or give to someone grieving a loved one’s death.

The Mary Mac Store Heart of Gold "I Remember" TeeShirt

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

Crisis Hotlines with outstanding counselors who are standing by to listen to your pain and help you. Excellent way to release your pain today.

Arianna Opper, D.O. offers tapping videos and soothing meditations to help you. If you’d like to explore them, please go here.

And remember to sign up for my private list below, so we can always stay in touch. Since social media is no longer reliable, please complete the form below so I can connect with you via email.

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Death of a Spouse, Death of Fiancee, Holidays, The Mary Mac Show

The Mary Mac Show | Preparing for Valentine’s Day

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In Episode 62, we look at our feelings as Valentine’s Day approaches and how to help ourselves through this special, yet melancholy, day.

Before we experienced our special loved one’s death, Valentine’s Day may have been quite joyous or not even on our radar.

If our spouse, fiance, boyfriend or girlfriend made it a special day for us, we will remember it with a longing for that again and are sad that we won’t be enjoying that again this year and, perhaps, in the future with them.

But there is no reason why we can’t not only remember the wonderful experiences we had with them, but plan something special for yourself with other friends so we aren’t so alone on this day.

Decide what would bring you happiness and call friends to meet for coffee, a drink or a meal. Toast to them, share memories and even through the tears, remember all the love they gave you.

You have a lot of love to give. Start to think about whom you’d like to share that with.

Perhaps you’ll rescue a beautiful cat or dog to be your forever fur baby.

Maybe you’ll spend time with a neighbor who is just as alone as you are.

Whatever possibilities come to you, giving love is the most precious gift you can give anyone.

Additional Notes:

Treat yourself to our beautiful Heart of Gold “I Remember” mug. Something so special for your collection.

Heart of Gold "I Remember" Mug for those grieving the death of a loved one.

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

Crisis Hotlines with outstanding counselors who are standing by to listen to your pain and help you. Excellent way to release your pain today.

Arianna Opper, D.O. offers tapping videos and soothing meditations to help you. If you’d like to explore them, please go here.

And remember to sign up for my private list below, so we can always stay in touch. Since social media is no longer reliable, please complete the form below so I can connect with you via email.

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Much Love,

Mary Mac xoxo

Disenfranchised Grief, Emotional Challenges, Emotional Freedom Technique | EFT, The Mary Mac Show

The Mary Mac Show | Disenfranchised Grief II

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In Episode 61, Disenfranchised Grief II, we continue to delve into the trauma and pain mourners feel when they can’t fully express their loss after a loved one’s death and how to help ourselves cope.

Whether you are grieving a secret relationship where your partner dies and you can’t fully mourn publicly for their death, or perhaps someone has taken their life and shame and embarrassment make it difficult to share the circumstances surrounding their death, these are forms of disenfranchised grief.

Listen in today to learn more about how to deal with these difficult deaths.

Additional Notes:

To see my signature Heart of Gold “I Remember” Tees, Hoodies and other products at The Mary Mac Store, either for yourself or as a gift for someone grieving the death of a loved one, please go here. Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

Grief Grieving Hoodie

Find grief resources here. Call the national organization which best suits your grief to find local support groups or contact persons to help you.

Visit the “I Will Remember You – Grief Support and Grief Quotes” facebook group which helps you connect with others who are grieving. This is a wonderful private group originating from Australia, which you can join, where you can vent and share your story. Tell Shar we sent you!

Crisis Hotlines with outstanding counselors who are standing by to listen to your pain and help you. Excellent way to release your pain today.

If you are feeling shame either because you’ve imposed it on yourself for what you “think” a certain death means to you, or because others are making your feel that way, you might find solace in this EFT Tapping Video by Arianna Opper, D.O. She has a very soothing voice and aura.

If you’d like to explore her other videos, please go here.

And remember to sign up for my private list below, so we can always stay in touch.

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Much Love,

Mary Mac xoxo

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The Mary Mac Show | Disenfranchised Grief I

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In Episode 60, we delve into the trauma and pain mourners feel when they can’t fully express their loss after a loved one’s death.

There are so many situations where someone feels shame after a loved one’s death and cannot express their grief and pain because the relationship may not have the proper ‘label’ or the relationship has been so strained or secret.

Many types of death carry a stigma that society places on it and, consequently, many bereaved feel stifled in openly showing their grief.

Often times people make others feel less than or embarrassed when a person has overdosed, or took their own life, or was murdered or killed another and themselves in a vehicular homicide crash.

They convey that something is wrong with a woman who has a miscarriage or stillbirth or several.

It could be a secret gay relationship was never known and the surviving partner must keep that to themselves because their lover was married, perhaps even with children and only hurt with come to his family.

It might be an ex-spouse who caused all sorts of pain and your children are grieving his or her death, but where does your grief fit in?

This week we discuss many different types of disenfranchised grief and next week we will look at what we can do to soothe ourselves when we are dealing with such a death.

Additional Notes:

If you are feeling shame either because you’ve imposed it on yourself for what you “think” a certain death means to you, or because others are making your feel that way, you might find solace in this EFT Tapping Video by Arianna Opper, D.O. She has a very soothing voice and aura.

If you’d like to explore her other videos, please go here.

To see my signature Heart of Gold “I Remember” Mug, either for yourself or as a gift for someone grieving the death of a loved one, please go here. A portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death.

Much Love,

Mary Mac xoxo

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The Mary Mac Show | Dealing with Devastating Disappointment

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In Episode 59, we discuss how those who claimed to have your back after the death of a loved one, slowly or abruptly exit your life and how others unexpectedly appear at your side.

It is very difficult to understand how people who are close to you in life can tell you one thing at the funeral when you are at your most vulnerable, only to reneg on you in the future.

It’s incomprehensible how the people, whose word you took as fact, fail to follow through for you.

In this episode we talk about how to handle this pain.

Additional Notes:

When you’ve had serious emotional blows, taking Bach’s Rescue Remedy can be very helpful. (Does contain alcohol, so be aware.) A few drops on your tongue and a short nap can calm you.

Also, you can find our new collections of creative products and gifts for yourself or others who are grieving at The Mary Mac Store. We also honor the military, law enforcement, firefighters, EMTs and other First Responders who have given the ultimate sacrifice. Visit and take a look around. Read the “About Us” page to learn more about how our shop was formed.

A portion of all sales goes to support The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death.