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The Mary Mac Show | Feeling Invisible

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 77, we discuss how we tend to feel invisible while attending gatherings after a loved one’s death when others don’t know how to treat us.

It’s a very strange feeling when you are at a gathering and you’re observing everyone flitting around, engaging with others, but you have this sense that people may be afraid to engage with you.

So you sit and wait and see what happens and most times, if they do come to talk with you, you will get that sense in your gut that this is all superficial.

But the irony is, I’m discovering these folks do this with others too, who haven’t even lost a loved one.

So listen in to Episode 77, as I discuss my findings.

Bless you, my friend. My warrior!

xoxo

Additional Notes:

Visit Crisis Connections at my website to telephone a trained counselor to speak with whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, frightened, fearful or any host of emotions.

Learn the Emotional Freedom Technique here for Stress and Overwhelm. It will soothe you and calm you physically and emotionally. Also spend time in this guided meditation on Self Compassion, which we all need. Dr. Arianna also offers many wonderful tapping and guided-meditations to choose from based upon which is best for you.

You can watch Marissa Peer’s “I Am Enough” meditation.

Bach’s Rescue Remedy will calm and soothe you. Remember, it does have alcohol in if, if that is a concern for you.

Treat yourself to a lovely gift from our Heart of Gold “I Remember” Products from The Mary Mac Store.

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

And remember to sign up for my private list below, so we can always stay in touch. Since social media is no longer reliable, please complete the form below so I can connect with you via email.

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The Mary Mac Show | Grieving for an Emotionally or Physically Absent Parent

The Mary Mac Show Podcast

In Episode 76, we discuss the painful subject of grieving when a parent is emotionally or physically absent. They may still be with us or have died, yet the hurt lingers.

It can be especially painful when a parent is not truly connected to you.

Whether they died in childbirth, gave you up for adoption, was seriously impaired by drugs, alcohol or criminal behavior, you suffered from these circumstances.

And as you grew, you might have been neglected or raised by your Dad after your mother’s death, or your Mom after your father’s death.

You might have been raised by a grandparent or even a great-grandparent who took you in and did the best they could.

You might have been put in the foster care system shuffling back and forth among homes.

Whatever your life handed you to this point, it may not have been ideal and you might still harbor pain from your upbringing.

Feelings of resentment, anger, bitterness, sadness, loneliness and isolation may sit just under the surface and still affect you.

We address many of these hurts in episode 76 and I encourage you to not only listen in, but to look at the links below and begin to learn EFT, get help from a hotline when you need to talk and vent, and watch Marisa Peer’s videos on “I Am Enough” so you can begin the healing process.

Sometimes when we experience the death of a loved one, many other issues surface when we are in the grieving process. This may be one of them.

Bless you, my friend. My warrior!

xoxo

Additional Notes:

Visit Crisis Connections at my website to telephone a trained counselor to speak with whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, frightened, fearful or any host of emotions.

Learn the Emotional Freedom Technique here for Stress and Overwhelm. It will soothe you and calm you physically and emotionally. Also spend time in this guided meditation on Self Compassion, which we all need. Dr. Arianna also offers many wonderful tapping and guided-meditations to choose from based upon which is best for you.

You can watch Marissa Peer’s “I Am Enough” meditation.

Bach’s Rescue Remedy will calm and soothe you. Remember, it does have alcohol in if, if that is a concern for you.

Treat yourself to a lovely gift from our Heart of Gold “I Remember” Products from The Mary Mac Store.

Remember, a portion of all proceeds help fund The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc., the first national non-profit public charity which benefits children, teens, young adults after a loved one’s death which I established many years ago.

And remember to sign up for my private list below, so we can always stay in touch. Since social media is no longer reliable, please complete the form below so I can connect with you via email.

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The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | Speaking About Death and Dying

The Mary Mac Show PodcastOne of the most difficult transitions in life…is to death.

Most of us don’t want to consider what might happen if someone we love is diagnosed with a life-threatening illness.

It shocks us and causes us to change a great many things in our life so we can be with them more and perhaps even move closer to them, if need be.

It can become necessary to balance our regular life with the new demand of helping them get through this time in their life, whether it results in remission and cure, or in death.

No one is skilled at helping others die. We just aren’t.

We aren’t skilled at helping ourselves die, either.

We need help.

In Episode 19, we discuss how to talk to our family about dying and death.

And we consider how we can comfort and speak with a family member leading up to their death.

What we should do and not do and how we can be there for them.

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | The Possibility of Dying

The Mary Mac Show PodcastOne of the most disconcerting facts about this Coronavirus, besides the fact that so many around the world have been infected and affected financially and socially, is the thought that we might have to consider we ourselves might die.

No one is ever prepared to think about their own death.

We go about our business each and every day and until someone in our life becomes ill, or even has a sudden death, dying is not something that normally comes up for us.

But this is an unprecedented time in history. The last time something like this happened with the Spanish Flu was 1918 and the majority of our population wasn’t even alive then.

So while it may be a very uncomfortable thing to talk about and to address, I took the bold step to openly talk about this issue, whether we like it or not.

In Episode 18, I delve deep into preparing yourself to die and all that goes with it.

I don’t leave anything out.

I speak candidly about what might happened, given our circumstances now, if we get very ill from the coronavirus and cannot recover.

Please build the courage you need to listen in.

It’s definitely morbid and uncomfortable.

It’s real.

It’s raw.

It’s authentic.

Listen in to Episode 18 here.

Be well, be safe. Much Love. xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | Dealing with Uncomfortable Change and Small Griefs

The Mary Mac Show PodcastWhile the bereaved, who have experienced a loved one’s death, have the double trauma of dealing with their grief and the changes the coronavirus or COVID-19 have brought to their daily life, there are also countless millions around the world now having to deal with another type of bereavement – learning to grieve the life they once knew.

Each of us have been catapulted into a new era in our lives; one we never expected.

But life is never neat and clean. Grief can be messy, as I usually say.

We never know how we will react to grief in our lives until we are thrust into it.

And, unfortunately, we also don’t know how this will affect us long term.

We are left to deal with many small griefs every day and are left wondering how this will all come together for us and those we love.

What we see on the news is only one facet of what is going on in our homes no matter where we live around the world.

Governments are requiring lockdowns, quarantines, shutdowns, etc. Whatever you call it, the mission is to reduce the spread of the virus as best we can.

Listen in to Episode 17, where we discuss dealing with these changes and helping ourselves through them.

Be well, be safe. Much Love. xoxo