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The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | Speaking About Death and Dying

The Mary Mac Show PodcastOne of the most difficult transitions in life…is to death.

Most of us don’t want to consider what might happen if someone we love is diagnosed with a life-threatening illness.

It shocks us and causes us to change a great many things in our life so we can be with them more and perhaps even move closer to them, if need be.

It can become necessary to balance our regular life with the new demand of helping them get through this time in their life, whether it results in remission and cure, or in death.

No one is skilled at helping others die. We just aren’t.

We aren’t skilled at helping ourselves die, either.

We need help.

In Episode 19, we discuss how to talk to our family about dying and death.

And we consider how we can comfort and speak with a family member leading up to their death.

What we should do and not do and how we can be there for them.

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | The Possibility of Dying

The Mary Mac Show PodcastOne of the most disconcerting facts about this Coronavirus, besides the fact that so many around the world have been infected and affected financially and socially, is the thought that we might have to consider we ourselves might die.

No one is ever prepared to think about their own death.

We go about our business each and every day and until someone in our life becomes ill, or even has a sudden death, dying is not something that normally comes up for us.

But this is an unprecedented time in history. The last time something like this happened with the Spanish Flu was 1918 and the majority of our population wasn’t even alive then.

So while it may be a very uncomfortable thing to talk about and to address, I took the bold step to openly talk about this issue, whether we like it or not.

In Episode 18, I delve deep into preparing yourself to die and all that goes with it.

I don’t leave anything out.

I speak candidly about what might happened, given our circumstances now, if we get very ill from the coronavirus and cannot recover.

Please build the courage you need to listen in.

It’s definitely morbid and uncomfortable.

It’s real.

It’s raw.

It’s authentic.

Listen in to Episode 18 here.

Be well, be safe. Much Love. xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | Dealing with Uncomfortable Change and Small Griefs

The Mary Mac Show PodcastWhile the bereaved, who have experienced a loved one’s death, have the double trauma of dealing with their grief and the changes the coronavirus or COVID-19 have brought to their daily life, there are also countless millions around the world now having to deal with another type of bereavement – learning to grieve the life they once knew.

Each of us have been catapulted into a new era in our lives; one we never expected.

But life is never neat and clean. Grief can be messy, as I usually say.

We never know how we will react to grief in our lives until we are thrust into it.

And, unfortunately, we also don’t know how this will affect us long term.

We are left to deal with many small griefs every day and are left wondering how this will all come together for us and those we love.

What we see on the news is only one facet of what is going on in our homes no matter where we live around the world.

Governments are requiring lockdowns, quarantines, shutdowns, etc. Whatever you call it, the mission is to reduce the spread of the virus as best we can.

Listen in to Episode 17, where we discuss dealing with these changes and helping ourselves through them.

Be well, be safe. Much Love. xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Coronavirus | Dealing with Fear and the Unknown

The Mary Mac Show PodcastWhen we began 2020 never could we have anticipated that such a pandemic would affect not only the people of our entire country but other countries around the world.

The news is swimming with all the difficult statistics about how many people have become infected and have died.

We are encouraged, at this point, to self-contain in our own homes, be prepared with food, water, medicine and other necessities for each member of our family.

Schools are closed, events have been cancelled, most are working remotely from home. We are forced to learn how to live in small quarters with our entire family, while others who live alone are working at staying connected for their mental health.

In Episode 16, we discuss the fear and circumstances surrounding the Coronavirus and how we can cope during these unprecedented times.

Since so much of what we are dealing with can be helped by tapping or EFT/The Emotional Freedom Technique, I explain the incredible need to learn this skill.

Visit Brad Yates’ youtube channel to not only learn it for yourself, but teach every member of your family so they relieve their emotional pain during this time and beyond.

And if you haven’t already done so, listen in to both Episode 1 and 4, to help you learn how to focus in on what you can be grateful for, instead of negativity which will decrease your immune system. And we don’t need that.

Sending Huge Hugs! Be well!

xoxo

The Mary Mac Show | Emotional Challenges | Loneliness and Isolation

The Mary Mac Show PodcastOne of the most difficult aspects of the grieving process is when we deal with loneliness, feeling alone and isolation to protect ourselves from further pain.

In Episode 13, we differentiate between being lonely and feeling alone. We can be around many people but still, inside, we feel alone.

As our grieving process proceeds, we sometimes believe it’s better to isolate ourselves because so many people just don’t understand what we are going through. They haven’t experienced the death of a spouse, parent, child or sibling. So they just can’t feel what you’re feeling.

Sometimes they don’t follow through on visiting us or doing something for us that they promised to do and we wonder why.

But at some point, whether we like it or not, we need to slowly move from our place of isolation and build a new life for ourselves. And even though that is so unfair, it is very unhealthy to linger in the pity-party stage.

Listen to Episode 13, so you can better understand these emotions and what to do to help yourself.