In Episode 162, we discuss how to simplify our surroundings and the way we live our life so we can lead a calmer everyday existence while we are working through our grieving process.
Often, when we are grieving a significant individual in our lives, we don’t take the time to consider how we can simplify things so we won’t feel so overwhelmed.
In this episode we look at various ways to decrease our tasks and pressure. It helps us to think through this process and minimize our lifestyle so we release additional pressure that is not needed.
If you can review your daily routine, and consider things we can let go of, we will have less struggle.
And when we’re grieving for someone so special, we need extra time to attend to our emotional needs.
In Episode 161, we welcome in the New Year and start to clarify what we truly want our life to be like in the future.
In years past we might have been so excited when New Year’s Eve came along and we made plans to attend gatherings and parties with the special people in our lives.
But after a loved one’s death, it becomes hard to look forward to a new year without them.
In this week’s episode, we try to push you, just a little, to start the process of considering with clarity what exactly YOU want in the new year and to make it plain in your journal.
It can take a lot of thought to think through what you believe is best for YOU at this time.
And when you write it down on paper, it becomes more clear so you can determine which would work best for you.
Now you may come up with several options and then put them in priority.
You may not get to all of them by the end of this new year, but that’s perfectly ok.
If you can decide on one option in each of the areas I speak about in this week’s podcast, that will be enough.
But do have one priority for each so you have clarity of what will bring you joy, what will bring more success to your life and what will help you spend time working on you not only concentrating on the death of your loved one.
The sad thing is we have no control over what happened to them and to us. We only have control of how we react.
So take the time to concentrate on yourself this week and consider what’s best for your 2023!
We will always remember them, love them, and yes, to varying degrees grief for them. But that doesn’t mean we need to stay stuck.
Blessings to You.
Let me know how it’s going!
xoxo
Additional Notes – Some things that will help along this journey to ease the pain:
If you are having an especially difficult time emotionally, I recommend you speak with a specialist at a hotline near you. Here you will find hotlines all around the world. Trained counselors are there to listen, free of charge, to what’s going on with you. Take advantage of their great kindness. Vent with an objective individual. You don’t have to be ‘suicidal’ to call them, but if you are, that’s the best place to call. Don’t hestitate!
For parents and teens, there is an amazing resource where you can email or text counselors for help at The Boys Town National Hotline! Outstanding assistance for your children and you. You can also dial 988 for assistance.
Visit Julie’s EFT episodes on grief and she will teach you the Emotional Freedom Technique. Her videos calm your spirit and help you release emotional and physical pain as you move forward.
You can order your Bach’s Rescue Remedy from most health food stores, either in person or online. Remember, these do have alcohol in them.
I use the Rescue Remedy 20ml drops but they have spray and other versions which might work better for you. And…they also have products to calm pets, too.
*To find a homeopathic doctor, visit here or here. Many offer phone consultations if you cannot find one in your area. They work with patients around the globe. You can also research in your area of the world.
Grab my free ebook, 21 Things You Need to Know About the Grieving Process, right here on my site.
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In Episode 147, we discuss the power of prayer in our lives after we’ve experienced the death of a loved one and how it can give us peace as we move through our grieving process.
Now you may be thinking “really…will this work?”
Well if you’ve never used prayer to bring you peace, especially when you feel like all hell is breaking loose around you, then I’d say “Yes…give it a try. You have nothing to lose.”
Now in this day and age, many think that it’s not necessary or ‘cool’ to attend church on Sundays, or watch an online service wherever you are.
It can be as easy as clicking a few buttons on your television remote and you can tap into almost any service you’d like to try.
Not all pastors or leaders may resonate with you; so find another.
But the significance of prayer itself is that it is a way of communicating, talking to God one on one.
It’s a conversation.
It’s a relationship.
And you can do it anywhere you are.
When you are in such pain, either because you’re missing the one you love, or because you need direction in life since they died, or because you are confused as to why all of this is happening, wouldn’t it be calming to speak with the creator of the universe?
Now your family and friends may be think it’s a waste of time.
But you aren’t them.
You need comfort and a sense of calm in your life and that can come from a relationship with God.
He’s right there for you…you only need to reach out.
You might wonder if you’ll get anything out of it.
But I believe rebuilding or developing a prayer life will help you tremendously with your grief and with the uncertainties of life.
And yes you might be wrestling with your anger at God for what you think He did or didn’t do when your loved one died or was killed.
But flipping that around to gaining his peace, the peace that passes all understanding, is by far more comforting than handling all your emotions alone.
One of my favorite songs is “What a Beautiful Name.” I realize this is part of my faith, but it might really soothe you, regardless. When you realize it has 435 million views, it obviously resonates mightily with people around the world!
Bless you my friend.
xoxo
Additional Notes:
You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.
If you need knowledge as to what to expect when you’re grieving, visit www.GriefAuthority.com and pick up my 3 Book Bundle of Hope which you can immediately download 24/7 anywhere in the world. It is important to not guess if what you’re feeling is part of this process. With my books, you will know what happens during this time so you’ll have your mind at ease. Go get them now.
If you are grieving a loved one’s death, take the time to research a hotline with trained counselors to speak with.
The very best individuals to connect with are those who are suffering your exact type of death. Go here.
Consider joining The Mary Mac Show Community so we can support you and love on you, answer your questions and make friends while you move through your grieving process.
There are only a handful of experiences in one’s life that we would consider significantly important.
And the death of the United Kingdom’s Her Royal Highness, Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, is one of them.
While I’m not a citizen of the UK, my family heritage touches Scotland and Ireland and I feel a great affinity to the people of the UK and its monarch.
I’ve studied British History since I was a youngster having read countless biographies, watched documentaries and followed its good and not so good history.
Last year I created a commemorative episode to honor HRH Prince Philip after he died just shy of his 100th birthday. Ironically, he died on my birthday and I spent hours watching the tributes online and on television.
When his custom-made Range Rover was being driven to pick up his casket for the service, I was overcome by the beautiful music that the military band was playing. Here is a snapshot of when they played “I Vow to Thee, My Country” a beautifully solemn hymn:
And here is the episode I created when he passed on and the corresponding blog:
But on Thursday evening, 8th of September 2022, Her Majesty went on to be with her beloved husband almost one and one-half years after his death.
Only two days before, on Tuesday, she welcomed her 15th Prime Minister, Winston Churchill having been her first.
This week, in Episode 146, I remember HRH Queen Elizabeth II and the 96 years she graced this earth and the over 70 years she reigned and wore the Crown.
Her grieving four children, eight grandchildren and twelve great-grandchildren will forever remember her. And we send our condolences on the death of such a remarkable lady.
We also acknowledge all the citizens of the United Kingdom and the Commonwealth Realms who loved her especially those who served her in all capacities during her reign.
You, too, feel the loss and you should always recognize that your sadness is legitimate and honored.
A perfect testament is just by watching the crowds and how they waited to walk past her casket in Scotland and again in London. All the people who lined the streets and waited in line for nearly a day to enter into Westminster Hall to witness history.
My memory of the Queen was back in 1977 when I was fortunate to have visited London with my parents for her Silver Jubilee. We had gone to the theatre one evening and the cab driver pointed out that if we walked down the block, the queen would be coming out after the opera and we might catch a glimpse of her.
My father lifted my camera, and just kept clicking when her car slowly drove by and to our surprise when we returned home, we had gotten a perfect shot of her. I still have that photo and cherish it.
The lights were on in the car so everyone could see her and Prince Philip. She looked so beautiful, waving to everyone.
Another touching tribute was from Paddington Bear on her Platinum Jubilee earlier this year. When he said “Thank you for Everything”, well I was so overwhelmed because at 96 we really didn’t know how many more years we would have with her.
Take a look:
To everyone who is grieving the loss of a Monarch, Mother, Grandmother, GreatGrandmother and Friend, we send you our sympathies and love.
And to the new King Charles III and Camilla, Queen Consort we acknowledge a new reign and wish the very best to you.
A look at Her Majesty’s life:
Her funeral will be tomorrow, Monday 19th September 2022 at 11am British Time, 6am Eastern Time in the US. I will be watching with you.
In Episode 135 Part I of “Grieving a World We Once Knew” we discussed the uncertainties in our world, inflation, pandemic issues, and how we must reevaluate what is important to us and how to cope when we have little control over our new world.
When we are dealing with a loved one’s death, it is expected that we will experience various challenges to our physical health, mental health, financial health, spiritual health and intellectual health.
And now that we have the additional stress, anxiety and possible overwhelm with our society changing at such a rapid pace, it is that much more important that we look at how it is affecting us in addition to the grief we feel for our loved one.
Don’t take this lightly.
It is imperative that you care for yourself and your family during these times.
We unfortunately do not have the luxury of only considering our bereavement. We are now tasked with learning how to fully care for ourselves in many way.
Listen in to Part II in Episode 136, to learn how to better prepare yourself for the times ahead.
Please take time to share your experiences and comments below so others can learn from you.
Stay Strong and Bless you my friend.
xoxo
Additional Notes:
As you know I am a great believer in the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique.
Subscribe to Full Spectrum Survival, which gives important information on how to survive what we believe is up ahead for us. Learn as much as you can, as quickly as you can. And stock up on food, water and supplies.
If you need someone to chat with, don’t be shy. It’s totally confidential. Go to Crisis Connections page on my website MaryMac.info to find telephone numbers for Crisis Hotlines around the world.
As promised, here are some of the additional faith-based hotlines you can call for prayer and to calm you:
Trinity Broadcasting Network – TBN (714)731-1000
700 Club (800)759-0700
Joel Osteen Prayer Request (713)491-1283 or toll free at (888)567-5635
(I also enjoy Joel Osteen’s Daily Podcast)
If you need help finding people who will understand your exact pain, visit my Grief Resources page.
Visit GriefAuthority.com to purchase my Bundle of Hope Books which includes my book Understanding Your Grieving Heart After a Loved One’s death, the first and best book to reach for as you deal with your grief and How to Help a Grieving Child After a Loved One’s Death to help your surviving children.
You’re welcome to send your questions to the Contact page on my site.
You can obtain my free ebook entitled 21 Things You Must Know About The Grieving Process, available for immediate download right here on this site.
